What Works for Women at Work: Answers to Common Questions – Leave or Stay?
Should I Leave? Should I Stay? I’m stuck!
For whatever reason, you are thinking about leaving your job. You may get the sense that there’s only room for one woman at the top of your organization. Or perhaps your male supervisor flirts with you. Maybe you feel your work is undervalued or you are just not sure it’s a good fit. Whatever the reason, it can be hard to make a decision.
You are weighing all the risks: what will my coworkers and supervisors say? How will this look on my resume? It’s not working out now, but what if I miss out on amazing projects in the future? What if the other options out there are even worse?
You are also daydreaming about all the possibilities: a small and collaborative company, or new opportunities for growth.
In other words, you’re stuck.
If this sounds like you, here are some tips to help you make up your mind, from savvy professional women who’ve been there:
- “If I don’t enjoy what I’m doing 80 percent of the time or more, then it’s time to make a change.”
- Write stay and go on pieces of paper and throw them in a hat. “If I pull out stay and I feel nauseated, then the right answer is to go… Until your gut is loud and clear, don’t make a change because you don’t want to make too many changes.”
Try to hold two almost contradictory ideas in your head: 1) every job contains tasks you just don’t enjoy doing, and especially if you are young, you may have to “pay your dues” before getting more exciting work; and 2) It’s your life, and you only have one; if you don’t see exciting opportunities ahead, you may be wasting your time.
Our last tip: ask for the advice of others. Call your family, talk to your significant other, reach out to your mentor, or bring your concerns up at dinner with friends. They know you better than anyone and can see things you may be blind to. Take their opinions into account, but ultimately, trust your gut.
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